5 Things to do Before You Die

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5 Things To Do Before You Die

Hello readers. This may appear to be a morbid and depressing post but bear with me. We really need to talk about 5 Things To Do Before You Die. We all need to do some basic Estate Planning.

Let’s face it, or not face it like so many others end up doing, we are all going to leave this Earth someday. Maybe not tomorrow or the next day, but some date in the future we will leave behind the people we love for whatever it is you believe happens to us. This conversation does not matter what you believe really (Christian or atheist), the facts remain the same – there are some very important things you need to do before you die.

Over the last ten years, several of my loved ones have departed, all leaving behind a legacy of love, memories, in some cases a great deal of sadness, and in almost all cases with plenty of things to deal with afterward. Take it from me, if you listen to no one else, doing some basic estate planning will go great distances in helping the loved ones you leave behind with some direction in dealing with the remainder of your affairs.


Below I am highlighting the 5 Things To Do Before You Die, and in those give examples or scenarios of how each will help your loved ones deal with the loss.

Living Will

Make some decisions about how you want your healthcare to be managed if you become incapacitated and cannot speak for yourself. This includes artificially extending your life with ventilators, tube feedings, radical (and expensive) surgical procedures, etc.

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This all hinges really on what you want your quality of life to be should you become extremely ill. For example, a loved one that I helped care for became unable to swallow effectively, which then made conventional eating a very risky task. The loved one decided to give tube feeding a try in an attempt to get well enough to return home. However, after the loss of one of life’s greatest pleasures – eating – he quickly decided that tube feeding would stop in favor of the joy of tasting food. Unfortunately, the poor swallowing eventually caused an aspiration which ultimately ended his life.

Think about the quality of life along with quantity. Make sure you get those decisions conveyed in writing so that everyone knows your wishes. In the example above, I could not have made that decision myself – either way really. I would not have been able to make the decision to place a feeding tube in a loved one to extend their life, however, conversely, I would not have been able to decide to remove it to ultimately speed up the process. Make those decisions so your loved ones don’t have to. 

Power Of Attorney for Healthcare and Finance

This is actually two separate things but should be considered simultaneously.

Healthcare Power of Attorney

This very important position/person will be the person who will carry out your wishes above. Once those decisions about your healthcare are in writing, the Healthcare Power of Attorney will then be your spokesperson if you cannot.

Consider this: The Healthcare Power of Attorney should be someone who is kind, ethical, good moral character, someone you trust wholeheartedly, AND will not waiver from your wishes. It is a very difficult thing for some people to witness a loved one suffering, knowing that the end is coming. People can become frightened and have great difficulty making life or death decisions. All the more reason to be CERTAIN that your healthcare wishes are in writing and conveyed to your loved BEFORE you need someone to make those decisions that could end your life.

Financial Power of Attorney

The Financial Power of Attorney is a bit trickier, so make sure to get legal assistance with this one.

You want your financial affairs to be managed if you are not able. Investments, real estate, insurance, businesses, etc. all will need to be carried on for a period of time up to your death.

There is a lot to chance with a Financial Power of Attorney. A horror story example – I was very close to a situation with a loved one that named a Financial Power of Attorney during a period of time when the loved one was very distraught over the passing of a spouse. As it turned out, the Financial Power of Attorney did not have the loved one’s best interest at heart in some cases. Much of the cash assets of the loved one were removed from individual accounts in the loved one’s name and placed in the Financial Power of Attorney’s name. You can guess the rest of that story without me explaining it. The value was substantial.

We can all only hope that we are completely “with it” as we age. There is, however, a very good chance we will not be as we get into advanced years. Make sure that you name someone that will IN ALL situations do what is in your best interest – not their own. It could be a neighbor, attorney, or a pastor, and not a loved one at all.

If you have a large estate or a lot of cash it may be wise to speak to a Law Firm specializing in large estates to keep something like the above situation from happening.


Organization of your affairs is huge. This should actually be something you do regularly. It is also the area of biggest frustration for families or loved ones to deal with when you are gone. Searching through stacks of paper, looking for insurance contracts, calling vendors, etc.

Here is a helpful list of items you need to have organized:

  1. Life Insurance policies – make sure ALL your policies are in one place
  2. Bank Accounts – list out ALL your accounts. Checking, Savings, Money Markets, CDs
  3. Retirement Accounts – 401K, Pensions, IRAs, Annuities, etc.
    1. Review your beneficiaries regularly – death, divorce, etc. all change things. Plan appropriately
  4. Health Insurance Plans – All of them. It may help pay some of your bills
  5. Copies of your Living Will, Healthcare POA, Financial POA that we just discussed
  6. Prepaid Funeral contracts – We’ll talk more about this below
  7. Titles, Deeds, Business documents, and any other legal documents
  8. Tax documents – may be needed to file your last 1040. Sorry Uncle Sam still gets paid

These are the most important ones based on the times I have had to deal with a loved one’s affairs. If you are a business owner this gets exponentially more complex.

Funeral/Burial Plans

Most people avoid this one. Planning your funeral before you are actually gone is somewhat morbid let’s face it. However, consider this your last expression of love for those that are going to be left behind, grieving over your departure. The last thing you want to do is contribute to their anguish by making them decide what to do with you once you’re gone.

Funeral Homes do a great job these days in the Pre-planning of services. If that is just too much for you, at least get some wishes documented. There is nothing more frustrating than trying to decide when everyone is sad, what are we going to do with so and so.

An issue that is becoming more and more common – Extended families, where there are stepchildren and/or step-grandchildren. Biological children may want mom or dad buried in a particular location and the extended family may want something entirely different. Case in point: a loved one I helped take care of deceased with no guidance on burial and I am a stepchild. This loved one’s biological family wants one thing and we (my siblings) are thinking something else entirely.

Some basic guidance will help immensely even if you do not wish to plan your own funeral.

Last Will and Testament

Last Will and Testament estate planning

So, you are no longer with us at this point. This is where it gets really messy if you haven’t planned well.

The Last Will and Testament is a legal document that directs your final wishes pertaining to possessions and dependents. The Last Will and Testament provide instruction for what to do with your possessions – leaving them to certain people or groups, donations, the sale of property, who will take custody of children if necessary, and a variety of other things.

Most importantly, The Last Will and Testament names an Executor that will manage or oversee the process. It is extremely important to name someone that will see to it that your last wishes are seen through. Speak to an attorney prior to naming one Executor and ABSOLUTELY speak to an attorney if you are considering naming more than one.

An example of what NOT to do. Naming more than one Executor is problem enough. That means that all parties can get along, play nice in the sandbox, and all live within reasonable proximity to one another. If anyone of those is in question, DO NOT name more than one Executor – the process will become exponentially more difficult and ultimately much more costly.

Not having a Last Will and Testament is BAD. If you die without a Last Will and Testament, you are considered “intestate”, which means your state of residence becomes the Executor of your estate. You do not want this to happen. Depending on state law where you live, your possessions will likely be distributed according to state law without consideration for any of your family’s wishes. If children are involved it could be an even worse scenario.

The Last Will and Testament does many things. Make sure you have this important piece of estate planning completely covered prior to your death. Once you are gone, what is in your Will is the final word – It cannot be taken back, revised, changed, or altered once you are gone. If something changed prior to your death and you forgot or didn’t change your Will – It’s too late once you are gone.

So, there you have it, folks – 5 Things to do Before You Die. Were you thinking this was going to be about 5 destinations to see before you die? Sorry – We’ll cover that in another post 🙂

My disclosure: I am not an attorney, estate planner, or financial planner, and none of the information included here should be considered “legal” or “estate planning” advice. I am simply putting together a list of things that I have seen numerous times as things that are most often used in “good” and “poor” planning prior to an illness and/or death.

Do your family a favor and make sure you plan for some point in the future. Make sure to seek legal advice for any of these topics. The laws are different in each state, so don’t take any chances.


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  1. Being an attorney, I agree totally. And you can really do these things without legal assistance. And, unless you have a large number of complex assets, you can transfer everything with non-probate transfers and the court and the attorneys won’t get to take any of your money. I still have a few wrinkles of my own to work out because of other state’s laws, but I have almost everything together and gave it to my daughter – call it my “death packet” 🙂

    1. I didn’t know that – you’re an attorney. Very cool. Then you know what I’ve been through. The latest issue I haven’t really discussed because it’s been a touchy topic with my siblings. Thanks for following al

    1. Yes – me too. Just recently lost a loved one that had only minimal parts of these done, and it has been such an eye opening experience for me. Far too often it is left to survivors to figure out, and that’s just not really fair. Thanks again.

    1. I’ve been through a couple others and currently going through it again for a step-parent. Having things in order saves so much effort and frustration. Thanks for stopping by

  2. Very useful information. I’m a wealth planner and I always stress the importance of wills, trusts etc. I did my will more than ten years ago at a relatively young age. It needs updating as my circumstances have changed. Also our digital footprints are assets which are transferable as well. We all need to be au courant with the inheritance laws in our jurisdictions. I have too many stories of family infighting after their loved ones have passed. I can write volumes.

    1. I WAS a financial rep for a short time but I didn’t want to say that in my post because I’m currently not any longer. Digital records are going to be the next big challenge for folks. Great comments – thanks for reading

  3. I was expecting 5 places to visit or 5 must do experiences. Haha But you are absolutely right, and this is important information that most people don’t want to think about. My mom died and because she had done all of those things, it was such a blessing to us that in this very stressful time we didn’t have to worry about probate or making decisions because she had already made them all. Great, important post!

    1. That is the point though. Hey people thinking about it at least enough to help their children deal with things more efficiently. Sorry if you were expecting 5 Destinations ☺️. I enjoyed your post about biting the priest. That was funny

    1. I know. I am currently going through this due to the loss of a relative. He didn’t have most of these things in place and it was/has been a real struggle. I have learned so much…..the hard way. Thanks for reading.

      1. I can understand, Sorry for your loss! May his soul rest in peace!
        And I think this is one crucial aspect of blogging..ensuring that others learn something from your experience.

    1. Useful and very important because I’ve seen what happens when it isn’t done, or done improperly. 🙏🏻

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